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> Nicely circular! You don't have to know/believe the meaning of your words, for those words to have meaning. I'm particularly fond of how abusers will say something abhorrent, then act all surprised when victims take offense. The abuser often takes the stance that they were simply joking and the snowflake should grow a thicker skin. I'm as guilty as the rest.
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> On 12/8/20 8:15 AM, Marcus Daniels wrote:
>> I was kidding, of course.. believing the topic to be devoid of meaning, and so more absurd than abusive.
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>> It's important, even/especially for long-term partners, to reflect on possibly abusive habits. Even if the abused and the abuser *agree* that the habit isn't intentional abuse, an outsider will often *rightly* identify the habit as abusive.
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>> On 12/7/20 6:23 PM, Frank Wimberly wrote:
>>> If you agree that was mean please accept my sincere apologies. I am hoping that you didn't find it so. Marcus hasn't been privy to the hundreds of frank, sometimes humorous, in-person exchanges between us over the last 15+ years and I meant it in that spirit.
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